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Dont know whether to stay or go? =(

By May 7, 2011 - 6:52pm
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Thank you both for your replies. They were both very helpfull. I just get the feeling that he isnt attracted to me. But when I ask him he says he is. I get the feeling he just isnt being very straight up with me. He always generally wants the lights off, he never kisses me with tongue, not even during sex. We never have just sitting on the couch pashing. I love kissing too =( He always has his eyes closed during sex too. Guys in the past have commented on how they love to watch my facial expression so I just dont understand =(

May 8, 2011 - 2:56pm
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Anonymous (reply to jessica.claire.lawrence)

Sorry Jessica, your last response has made it clear. You have fruit blindness.

Eye closed during sexy times?! You should be complaining about how hes always trying to video you on his phone.

This is totally his problem not yours. Its always hard to walk away but in the long term this is not going to get better so you are prolonging the pain.

BTW this page is on stumbleupon, thats how i came accross it, not sure if you wanted that or not but if you didnt its going to be seen by quite a lot of people! maybe you ll meet a new beau ;)

May 10, 2011 - 11:13am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Lol, I guess you didnt want everyone to know, you should maybe ask the sitw admin to remove your name, because googling brings up your fb page !!! and your profile is not set to private!!! ooooh the horror,

May 11, 2011 - 12:00pm
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Hi Jessica,
I love the Anonymous responder, obviously male, that gave you a male's point of view on this as well as what I will add to it.

The idea that you will ultimately be with this guy for the rest of your life is probably very questionable. If you expect monogammy, I think you better move on or at least relax and know that this relationship is only a stepping stone to the ultimate love affair of your life.

I think in all reality, you don't have to dump him or move on, rather know what kind of relationship you are in which it appears to be less than what you expected. Why stay? I am sure the next guy will certainly appreciate the love you want to share. Don't limit yourself.

Good luck and keep us posted.

May 8, 2011 - 8:48am
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You are stunningly attractive, thats not the problem unless you have fruit blindness.
I'm ashamed to say that reading about you being sexually frustrated gave me a semi.
There could be many reasons why he has gone off sex and really unless he tells you there is little you can do so maybe separating would be best, it would at least act as a test of whether when it comes(oops) to the crunch he really cares.

But before you try such a serious step, suggest something really filthy to him, anal dressed as a school girl,rough deep throating etc, if he is up for it i would suggest he has watched too much porn.

Internet is killing sex for real women, guys can have any 15 different of extreme kinkiness laid out in neat categorys 24/7 with no foreplay. each time the ante is upped needing more and more extreme stimulus for the same reward, it is even making men struggle to get it up :http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/201010/how-i-recovered-porn-related-erectile-dysfunction?page=2

i know how you feel my ex gf was the same making me feel totally unloved by making phoooar noises when she saw topless men in the street when she was standing right beside me, it was like she couldn't differentiate between reality and porn and understand that i had feelings, she spent a fortune on an insane number of sex toys of massive sizes and even got hand arm vibration syndrome which is an industrial disease normally got by men using pneumatic drills or power tools , that is how powerful her 'big daddy' toy was! it plugged into the wall because it used that much power!

There are lots of nice guys in the world and 99% would love to bang you senseless, your bf doesnt know a good thing when he sees it, maybe he'll recognize it in the distance as you walk away! good luck

May 8, 2011 - 7:38am
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Well its just he talks about all these hot chicks hes been with and past sexual experiences. I prefer not to really go into detail. But then when it comes to bedroom its bland and when i try and talk about what he would like to try and trying new positions n sex n general he just totally cuts me off really. We never kiss with tongue, he never goes down on me, he always usually wants the bedside lamp off coz ;it hurts his eyes' bullshit lol and he always usually has his eyes closed =( This all just makes me feel so unattractive n like im not skinny enough or good enough.

May 8, 2011 - 2:59pm
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