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Has he changed? Or is it just me?

By June 11, 2010 - 9:46am
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Hi, this is my first time using this site so please bare with me.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little more than a year and a half. He's a great guy, graduate student, going on 25, great job and great friends ect.. But lately I've been finding myself more and more uninterested in him. It feels as if he's trying to relive his undergrad years by going to the gym everyday to bulk up, going out every night to drink, and he never used to be this way.

Sure, we would go out with friends once in a while, but I've gotten too old for the "let's go out and get wasted" scene. He only talks about how big his arms are going to get, has been eating protein powder with everything, and his ego has just reached an all time high. I've tried talking to him about this, and it's gotten us no where. I feel like he's going through his mid-life crisis and is only 25. I am very secure with what I am doing in my life, I am putting myself through college and work very hard for what I have. Maybe he's not as mature as I had hoped?

Oh, and the sex has gone down hill as well. We use to have sex about once a day and now it's about once a week if I'm lucky. He's been forgetting to invite me to certain events, but all his friends invite me. He doesn't think it's necessary to tell me that he's going out with the guys to get wasted when we already had plans for that day.

I've been trying to get him to do more things that I would like to do, we only do what he wants, and he always just shrugs it off and says next week. Well low and behold, when next week comes around it's the same thing.

I don't know what to say to him or if I should just give him space. I'm trying to be as logical as possible and not get too upset but this has been going on for a few months now and it's starting to get old. At this point any advice would be good advice.

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Thank you so much for the advice. I will definitely try this and hopefully it'll all work out. I'm sure it'll take time but of course I'll send an update!

June 11, 2010 - 12:05pm
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