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Has my libido increased, or has my boyfriend's libido disappeared?

By Anonymous August 12, 2009 - 6:06pm
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My boyfriend and I are intimately involved, and have been for about 2 months. He was always very affectionate beforehand; he enjoyed holding me, he kissed me often, and touched me often. When we had sex, he wanted to do it as often as I did and, for a period of about 2 weeks, touched and loved on me as liberally as ever.

However, following that 2 week time span, his libido decreased drastically. He's still somewhat affectionate, but it's different now. Although he was always playful, now it seems as though he's substituting playfulness for affection. He doesn't enjoy kissing anymore, and he rarely holds me in the loving way he once did; but now he roughhouses, tickles me, and other things of that ilk every time we're together. When I try to kiss or hold him, he seems uninterested and either avoids it by being playful (but still obviously dodging me) or (mostly in the case of kissing) politely asks if we can save it for later.

My sex drive hasn't diminished in the least. Now I'm the one who initiates sex, and most of the time he's not in the mood for it. His desire to be around me hasn't lessened. He takes every opportunity he can to spend time with me. Simply put, he's acting more like a childhood playmate than my lover.

I've talked to him about it, and he's noticed the change but doesn't know what caused it. I'm feeling dissatisfied, not just because I'm not having my sexual or emotional needs met but because I'm afraid I don't arouse him anymore.

Is this normal? Will it pass? Is there any way I can correct the situation or, at the very least, cope with it?

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It's obviously not going anywhere. He may be gay, but whatever the reason, he's just not into you and you should move on.

February 6, 2011 - 10:33pm
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