hello..iam very happy to find you..i am an 18 years old gairl..i am a virgin..but my boyfriend put his finger on my vagina to the end .then he says me that you are not a virgin..so if you put one finger easyly inside your self you are not virgin?

Hi Elvira-

Your boyfriend is wrong. Virginity in the way you are thinking of it usually means you have never had sexual intercourse. Often this means your hymen is intact. The hymen is a membrane that protects your vagina and uterus through childhood. In some women this membrane is pretty thick and tough to break, and in others, it isn't, and in some, it had a larger opening to begin with. People used to think that if your hymen was intact or not broken, you were a virgin, but if it was broken, you were not.

The fact is there are other ways to break a hymen. If you are athletic, it can break doing sports. It can break just during activity or exercise. An intact or broken hymen just is not a good measure of whether you are a virgin.

If your boyfriend wanted to know if you were a virgin, he could ask you. If he cannot accept your answer, you may have bigger issues than whether or not your hymen is intact. This page has not only a good discussion of this anatomy, but excellent diagrams as well: http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/hymen.html

I hope this helped. If we can help further, please let us know.