I have been seeing a man for a year and a half. He is 57 I am 49. I live at his house during the week, it is closer to work. We work at the same place. When we first got together we had sex once or twice a week. Now a couple of weeks will go by with nothing. He will participate if I iniciate but he seldom starts anything. He is otherwise very attentive to me. We snuggle in the evening, cuddle all night sleeping. He goes out of his way to do nice things for me. I really could not ask for someone to be more generous or show his love for me more than he does. He likes to cook and makes sure I have a good lunch everyday as well as nice dinners. The lack of sex makes me feel unattractive yet when we are together he is always touching me in passing or tickeling me or playing in some form, even when we do have sex and it is initiated by him it is in a playful manner. I have asked him why we seldom have sex and he gets kind of defensive and says usually he is tired or he really doesn't know why and it is not me. He said he finds me attractive and that he doesn't mean to hurt me in any way and that I should be patient and things will work themselves out. I have tried to tell myself that the sex part of this relationship is not all that important but after a couple of weeks the bad feelings I have start all over. I don't know what to do with this situation, I do love him and for the most part all other aspects of our relationship are good and are actually improving over time. He is not a real good communicator verbally but shows me most of what he feels. I think trust is a big factor for him as his marriage and a long term relationship both ended with cheating. I wonder if sex has always been a problem for him. I do think we have alot going for this relationship but need some guidance on how to correct or get past this hurdle. Any advice you have to offer would be greatly appreciated, any advice from the guys would be valuable.
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