How can I fix my relationship?

By Chrissy_A November 30, 2010 - 11:21am

Rate This

This Article

Vote Improved My Health 0
Vote Changed My Life
Vote Saved My Life

My fiance and i have been together for a while now. We're getting married next summer. And our relationship is great now. We used to fight a lot but after talking a lot about it we finally made a breakthrough our issues and we haven't had a fight in a while. It's been great. But now we're facing a problem I don't know how to fix or even how to go about trying to fix it. He has a great interest in being physical... He likes to play with his fingers and likes when I give him oral. Now I like when he does that, but it only satisfies a physical need not an emotional need or my craving to be intimate with him. It's just not the same. I am a very sexual person and he's one of the only two men I've ever been with. I have talked to him a lot about it, and he very lovingly tells me he'll work on it. And I know he wants to fix it. But neither of us know what to do. His lack of interest in sex makes me feel unattractive, unappealing. Just plain unwanted. Which in my head i know isn't right but i can't help but feel like this. I know his very religious upbringing has a part in it because he was always preached to wait till marriage and it's so much a part of his thinking he can't help it. And his sexual appetite will change once we're married. But i need to know what to do to keep my own sanity until then. I need some advice from women who have gone through this. And please don't say something cryptic like 'spend some you time' or 'take care of yourself' or 'talk to a therapist' because answers like that leave me with more questions. Please if anyone has any suggestions to allow me to feel better about myself and how to maybe ease off my own sexual drive.... It can't be normal for me to have this high a sex drive.