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How can I improve unusual sex life w/ my husband

By February 26, 2016 - 10:47pm
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Long story short, my husband has PTSD / Anxiety / Depression. Since he started on medication about 3 years ago to treat those issues, our sex life has suffered. Understand we have spoken to numerous doctors about it and changed medications more times than I can count. The issue is that he can't orgasm, we will have sex for at least an hour... sometimes 2 or 2.5 hours. This is exhausting for me, I can orgasm quickly with or without him, so after 15-20 minutes I have achieved multiple orgasms leaving me exhausted. Trust me, it's not as good as it sounds. On the other hand, my husband watches porn constantly and admits it. He is a part time student, our children attend school outside of the home and I work full time outside the home as well so he has plenty of time for this. He stays up until 2-3 AM alone every night. He says he doesn't masturbate, but admits to "touching himself all day" and watching porn but not masturbating. Over the last few weeks I have noticed that he takes VERY long showers and eventually realized he was taking his phone into the shower and masturbating to porn in the shower. When I confronted him, he denied it even though I made it clear I didn't mind that he did it. It only bothers me (other than him lying about it) because I am frustrated that he won't achieve orgasm during sex, and I relate that to the fact that he has already had one, or two during the day. I have always been open with him and told him that it hurts my feelings / self esteem, etc that he never "finishes" when we have sex, and reminded him of that when I brought up his shower habit. He denies it, says he's only done it a couple of times... and gets angry with me because he says I am not giving him any personal space and that I "don't have to know everything he does". I've tried having conversations about why it bothers me (because it effects me when we have sex, it takes SO long and he never finishes). He doesn't understand my position or why I "put too much thought into it". Hopefully no one else has this issue -but if you do, what are you doing about it? For the record, we are both under 35 and in good physical shape (not overweight).

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