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how can stop being obsessed with my boyfriend? Its taking over my life.

By July 12, 2014 - 5:53am
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I am 23 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. After breaking up with my ex of 5 years i finally started living my own life. When i met my new boyfriend things were fantastic, i wasnt jealous and i felt i could do my own thing. After 6 months jealousy started becoming an issue, then it started taking over my life. I constantly question myself when he doesnt txt back soon enough or when he doesnt kiss me enough (to my ridiculous standards) , when i feel like he's not into me or when i feel jealous i shut down and become cold towards him and blame him for things he probably hasn't even done. I have recently sunk to lurking his computer history and his facebook messages. He talks to other girls and looks at other girls pages a lot, but is this something i really should be worrying about? I know he loves me, but i just can't justify why he would stay with me. My self confidence is so terribly low and the anxiety from all this has crippled my life. I just want to be trustworthy and build my independence but i can't seem to figure out how. Any advice would be so much appreciated.


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Hi hazydaisy,

Welcome to EmpowHER. The first important thing in a relationship is trust and communication. It depends what he is talking about with the other girls in the internet. If you feel this is bothering you, it might be best to discuss with him how you feel. Jealousy can sometimes ruin a relationship and make you see things that are not as bad as it seems. Best of luck,


July 15, 2014 - 6:04am
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