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How do I get my bf to ejaculate with intercourse and not by hand?

By Anonymous October 2, 2009 - 8:14am
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I have been dating my bf for 3 months and we spend about 3 nights together a week. He went thru a divorce in March, with a seperation prior to that. He has a successful career, is a attentive father, appears mentally healthy and has taken steps to move forward in his life, some new furnishings, bedding, etc to make his home feel like his again. I have met his parents and will be meeting his brother very soon. He plans dates for us in advance and we also do things spontaniously.

The when we are having intercourse he can go for a few hours but not ejaculate. It has never happened. He is completely satisfying me but he cannot reach when we are having sex. He is able to ejaculate when I use my hand. (2x by oral) This usually occurs a few hours after (or in the early am) after we have had sex. I want to please him as well but I feel like something else (could be me, that he is so use to masterbation, it doesn't feel pleasurable inside me (I have children but have had them by c-section)???) is going on. We have a close relationship and are affectionate and communicate freely. We have talked about this 5+ times but what he tends to say that in time it will happen, or when it does it will most likely be over too soon. I am starting to think a lot about this and wonder if I continue giving him a release by hand will he ever be able to go while we are having sex? I care for him and want to help the situation. Please help and advise me what to do.

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