Facebook Pixel

how to increase interest in sex

By November 28, 2011 - 6:30am
Rate This


i am 26 yr old female. got married 3 years ago and till now i am not showing any interest in sex. Basically i am scared of the pain during insertion. I am interested only in foreplay and not beyond that. Hardly we would have had sex just once in a month. Also we are planning for a baby now. Can you please suggest me some tips on how to increase the interest in sex? We use KY jelly for lubrication. Also please suggest any lubricant which will also act as a pain killer.

Please advise.

Add a Comment2 Comments

EmpowHER Guest

I am 43 years old and our wife age is 37 years. We have 2 kids one is 14 years old and another is 5 years old and both daughter born by operation. Our wife last 7 years did not take interest in sex and when ask abou this than she told that not possible every week or daily. She tkane interest after 3-4 month only one time.
Please advice me for egular sex.

July 5, 2016 - 4:01am

Hi empower,

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time getting into sex because of the fear of pain. Do you actually feel an intense amount of pain during intercourse or is this just a fear? 

If you do feel a lot of pain during sex, then you may want to see your gynecologist to see if you may have Vulvodynia, which is a chronic pain in the external genitalia of the woman. 

As far as numbing cream for the pain, you can try Xylocaine Jelly but I would still see the doctor about this pain. 

Please keep us posted and good luck trying to conceive!


November 28, 2011 - 7:46am
Enter the characters shown in the image.
By submitting this form, you agree to EmpowHER's terms of service and privacy policy
Add a Comment

All user-generated information on this site is the opinion of its author only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions. Members and guests are responsible for their own posts and the potential consequences of those posts detailed in our Terms of Service.

Female Sexual Dysfunction

Get Email Updates

Female Sexual Dysfunction Guide

HERWriter Guide

Have a question? We're here to help. Ask the Community.


Health Newsletter

Receive the latest and greatest in women's health and wellness from EmpowHER - for free!