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Husband isn't sexually interested in me after only 2 mos. of marriage

By September 12, 2009 - 6:11am
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when we first started seeing each other we had great sex for a year, then he moved in with me and for a year and a half our sex life went from good to okay, he was taking anti depressants a nd said his lack of interest was from the pills, so he went his Dr. and was given Lavitra, It helped some, but he seemed to ejaculate to quickly, so he would take half a pill, this helped, so he gets 6 pills per bottle, and splits them in half 12 pills, they last 3 months, We got married 10 weeks ago, and never had sex on our wedding night, he was to tired. Now he seems to have more excuses not to have sex, headache, he drives 2 hours a day to and from work, he's tired, can't it wait till tomarrow, I don't feel like getting up to take a shower. I feel unwanted, unloved, there is no intimacy, no pillow talk, no nothing. I have bought porn, he'll get off after watching that, I discovered he looks at porn on computer then will have sex with me, I have purchased alot of sexy nighties, I light candles, I have put dirty little sex letters in his lunch bag, I perform 90% of the oral sex, when we do it, he just lays there doesn't touch me, then he just has sex with me and I very seldom get off, I need stimulation to, I try to talk to him about it he says I'm pouting, or i'm just mad again. well no I'm not pouting I'm hurt. he just ignores the issue and goes right to sleep, the next day he will call me from work and act as if nothing is wrong. I feel lonely, and I'm bored. I feel more like his mother than his partner. Please help.

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I feel your pain. My husband and I were married in June of 2009 (when I was six months pregnant) and we have a beautiful 20 month old already - but since before the wedding our sex life has just plain sucked. If he is interested, it is only long enough to get himself off and when I have tried encouraging or requesting certain things to help with my satisfaction he 'tries' for all of fortyfive seconds before going back to just caring about himself. I am due in a week with baby #2 and at this point, I have already talked to my husband about us needing marital counseling (he shows no interest) and at this point I have already talked to my family and close friends about the likelihood of a divorce. I just can't see the point in being married to someone that isn't interested in me in the bedroom.

September 24, 2009 - 9:24pm
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I hope he agrees to counseling, for you and the babies, I have tried talking to my husband, i have even been very frank, and asked him what i can do to make him more attracted to me, his response is nothing, he is attracted to me. I don't get it, i don't understand it and he doesn't try to help me understand. I asked him Wed, if we could have some fun in the bedroom as i would be getting my period anyday, he fell asleep, last night he said he has had a sore throat for two days. really? you seem okay laughing at the T.V. you seem okay visiting your mother last night, his excuses are even getting lame. I was awake until 2:30 am crying last night, he doesn't even realize. The only thing i can come up with now is , he must either be interested in someone else, or he is having an affair. I'm hurt and confused, and he blows me off and says I'm pouting. I'm tired of it, and I'm very lonely. I think i'm more hurt that he doesn't care. I'll take any suggestions at this time.

September 25, 2009 - 8:09am
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