I'm 30 years old and have been married for the last 3 years. We had been dating with my husband (31 years old) for 7 years before marriage, but we did not want to get married as we were both studying. Once we got married we moved to our house and everything was perfect. My husband was very attentive, interested in me and romantic.
Once I had reached 29, I statred discussing with him about the possibility of having a child. At first he was fine, but then he did not want a child yet. I was really frustrated and had some period that I was really sad and I was questioning his love about me.
One day he left the house and went to live with his parents. He came back 2 days later, just to leave again 4 days later. This time he was living with his for 2 months. At first I was devastated, but then I managed to pull myself together. We were meeting 1-2 times per week at first, and then every day. During the last month, I was leaving him make the first move to meet, as I did not want to feel that I was pushing him.
We are now back together (for the last 1.5 week) but my concern is that he has changed completely. He doesn't want to touch or kiss me. We haven't had sex for the last 2.5 months. I feel left out and although he states that he loves me (only when I ask him), I always get the feeling that he is back because he is feeling sorry for me or because he is afraid of saying he doesn't love me. I have told him many times that I want to be with him, but it is important that HE wants this as well... Everytime I say this he tells me that he coming back should say a lot to me. But is this enough? Is coming back but be like a roomate enough? Should I give him more time? I have asked him many times to get help (couples therapists, separated sessions with different psychologists, etc.) but when I do so he gets upset and refuses. Can you please help me? I love him but I hate seeing us like this.
Thank you in advance,
P.S.: I do not believe he is having an affair as most of the time he is at home, but I am suspecting he might be having skype conferences with other girls...