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By December 22, 2009 - 8:24pm
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Okay well i am 14 and i have not had my period yet and i have never had sex before and for some reason i am starting to look bloated and sometimes i feel pregnant. but the funny thing is i have never had sex in my life i have not even kissed a boy. but i am freaking out about it and i don't know what to do. i really need some advise on what yall think. PLEASE!!

thanks, meii

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Hi, meii,

I just wanted to agree with Rosa. I know how easy it is to worry at your age. There is so much information out there and everyone talks about things differently.

When you get your periods, that means you have started ovulating. Do you know what that is? It's when your body releases an egg that could be fertilized with sperm if you had sex. During the same time period, your uterus wall builds up soft tissue in case that egg is fertilized. If you don't have sex, the egg can't be fertilized, so you can't get pregnant. And if you don't get pregnant, you have a period. That's how your uterus gets rid of the extra tissue it built up.

Here's a really good site that explains more:


December 24, 2009 - 9:39am


Don't stress yourself out over this. It could very well be that your body is preparing yourself for its first menses (period). You are definitely not pregnant if you have never had sex before and you have not had your first period so you can completely discard that possibility.

That bloated, irritable, bad feeling you may be experiencing is a sign of an oncoming period OR you may have actually eaten something that made you feel bad and bloated.

Don't stress out over this, you are not pregnant just a normal teen.

December 23, 2009 - 6:58am
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