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i dont experience orgasm

By Anonymous March 11, 2011 - 9:56am
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My husband and myself have been having sex for the past one year. During this time I never experienced an orgasm. I want him to enjoy sex for which I take the initiative in doing things which he likes. Our sex usually lasts 5 mins. He starts fondling me for about a min or so after he is fully aroused and immediately penetrates me and finishes off with his orgasm.

My problem is that i do not feel anything during this time. I have read that most women does not attain orgasm by just penetration. Is that why I am lacking orgasm or any arousal? Through my friends I learnt that most of them attain orgasm or feel good when their partners fingers them and most of the time their partners see to it that they are aroused and feel good. But my husband is not bothered that i am not aroused or rather he does not notice that i am not aroused.

He watches porn movies and masturbates often which make me feel that may be I am not satisfying him. I have tried talking to him about this matter but he replied that it is due to my lack of sexual desire that I dont feel anything and that it does not effect him and does not matter to him that I am like this. He says that he cannot do anything about the fact that I do not get aroused and that I have to develop it or maybe I will learn after sometime. He advised me to watch porn movies but I am not comfortable with the idea.
Please advise what should I do ? Is this happening because as he says really I am lacking of sexual desire. Am I over reacting to the situation? I love him so much and really want to be happy with him while having sex .

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