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I'm afraid I'm pregnant but not sure?

By Anonymous May 28, 2011 - 9:48pm
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I am a nineteen year old college student and I recently moved to Florida for the summer to be with my fiancee. Because I haven't seen him for several months we went a little crazy and had unprotected sex several times but he pulled out every single time and we have been fortunate for him not to cum inside me. Over the last week or so we have been having sex less and my period is over a week late, this isn't the first time this has happened though. The last time I came down my period was two weeks late and we also had unprotected sex but I took a HPT and it came back negative. I'm really scared that I might be pregnant this time but unfortunately our financial situation is so bad we can't afford another HPT for the next two weeks. I'm completely stressed out and worried, I really cannot afford a pregnancy right now seeing as I am in college and my parents would flip out. Since freaking out the other day my fiancee and I have begun to use condoms, that will never happen be an issue again but once is all it takes. If I am pregnant how do I break it to my parents, and what do I do about college...I'm so lost right now.

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I'm sorry you are so afraid, but let's take it slower. Before figuring out how to break the news to your parents, let's make sure you aren't pregnant first.

What you and your boyfriend engaged in is called the Withdrawal Method, and if he did not ejaculate, there would be little-to-no chance of pregnancy. The slight risk of pregnancy could occur if there was semen in his pre-ejaculatory fluid (if he ejaculated prior to intercourse; I can explain more in-depth if you need), but otherwise, if he did not ejaculate at all...there would be no chance for sperm in the ejaculatory fluid to enter into your vagina. Sperm is a "must" for pregnancy to occur! :-)

The Withdrawal Method is a birth control method used by many couples; some successfully and others not as successful. It is about a 70-80% effectiveness rate (meaning, 20-30% chance of pregnancy each year of use).

If you can not afford the $12 HPT, then you would need to wait until your period begins. Do you have any friends that would loan you $12 bucks, and you can pay them back? If not, you know your period has been late a few weeks before, and you can assume that the odds are you are not pregnant. There is always a risk of pregnancy with unprotected sex, of course, so it is great that you are using condoms in the future (every single time, remember!)

May 29, 2011 - 6:33am
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