I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now. We started off as a one night stand, but eventually got carried on...because of great sex lives, and how we clicked mentally. We did everything together, enjoyed each other company. etc. The problem now is we started to have less and less sex..now its probably once or twice a month, which i have to initiate it first. We had many talks about this, serious and open too. So, we managed to get through till now. Though, the problem has come back again and again and i feel too tired to initiate anything. If he doesn't do it then fine im not going to do anything either. I give up dressing sexily to seduce him but his friends, as a matter of fact, i give up thinking about having sex with him at all. IF it happens, wow im so lucky. if you know what i mean.
Now i feel sad all the time. i often think about escaping away, to the seas and just be there alone. It will rejuvenate my soul. but i cant because of family and job. So i end up with a 9 - 5 office life. My boyfriend does not seem to have any problems at all. he doesnt even think we have a problem. As far as he's concerned we are fine and growing strong. he says that he doesnt really need sex anymore because he feels comfortable with our relationship very much that his love for me is entirely based on mentality level.
He doesnt cheat, he doesnt go out party (which he was like a man whore before he met me) he doesnt care about any girls. he just does men things with his colleagues i.e. play football, checking out new bicycles, etc.
I tried walked away from him a month ago but as you could guess, i had nowhere else to go, so i came back. I dont know how i can fix this problem because he doesnt even think we have problems. we are great....in his opinion, even if the passionate sex little exists. but he thinks its normal for a long relationship.
Now im sitting here feeling so bored of him. I dont know if i love him anymore, or if i ever do. Maybe i have fooled myself love with lust all the time. The whole thing about us exists based on sex....must be. Otherwise, why is it become this big of a problem for me.
Am i obsessed with sex? Do i like him for how he is or i like him because of sex?
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