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Is it normal for husband to keep photos of ex-wife?

By Anonymous July 14, 2010 - 9:29am
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My husband keeps photos of his ex-wife of 13 years in our bedroom inside a closet where he keeps his important papers. I also saw some pics lying around which he reluctantly removed after I pointed out. He keeps all her other pics in the store inside a box. She cheated on him but he doesnt seem to overcome her feelings for her. He says he keeps the pics for the kids when they grow up.In that case why does he keep it so open? It hurts me. When I tell him that he feels I am not broad-minded and I am over-reacting to it. He's like its going to be there even if I like it or not. There are times when he gets emotional but he says its because of the kids. He tries to be nice to me and says he's forgotten her. But how do I believe him? Am I really over-reacting ?

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Perhaps you ought to ask yourself why did she end up unfaithful to him, his ex wife. A frequent reason is because a woman doesn't feel appreciated, acknowledged or has his full commitment. Hence his signs of regretting and hanging on to the ideal of her even if the ex is fully detatched from him now. His little weakness, not fully giving himself to what he has got, untill it is gone. The kid excuse, his evasions and your discomfort are real warning signs. When a guy has some photo albums covering his life, the ex in her time slot and straight comments about her like other past events indicating he's done with her by a general view (right or wrong) of how she didn't work out with him, there isn't an issue re an ex's pics.
I suggest you see a relationship counsellor for guidance in dealing with this issue' and him, that is if my hypothesis seems potentially plausible for your situation. This contains at the bottom of it all the problematic issue of a man who can't value what he has and keeps himself from totally committing to any present woman.

November 5, 2010 - 7:27pm
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