My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a month now and we have not yet had sex. He says it is because he wants to take things slow. He hasn't been with anyone or had sex for over three years and it has been five months for me. I am just asking if this is normal because I am new to this whole taking it slow thing. We are living together only because of certain situations and that will change once I have a job and am on my feet. To be honest, I am dealing with a really nasty divorce with a man I left over a year ago. He was very abusive and manipulative and this is the first relationship I have been in that isn't and I don't have a man trying to get into my pants all the time. Is this normal? We make out a lot and I have given him a hj once, but that is about it. Please help me understand because I feel like a moron.