My sister, T, is getting separated from her husband of about 18 years. They have two kids. Her husband, K has not done anything in particular but has overall not been very kind, supportive of her and has a bit of a nasty side; he has kicked our family dog, slapped his little kitten, put my sister down in front of the rest of the family. I never liked him. He has often made me feel bad too. My sister has thought long and hard about leaving him as she is so unhappy and has finally gone ahead. The kids know. They are 10 and an older teenager. Things are amicable enough though her husband is feeling very sad, living at his mother's place. He is quite down and drinking too much.
Another of my sisters, B thinks it would be nice to ask him out for a drink and make sure he is ok. She is a good person but I feel this would be weird, inappropriate and not very cool as to me it almost feels like butting in and also he has been a little flirty with her in the past. I mentioned this to her and she accused me of simply not liking him because we had an argument a few years ago.
True, I don't like him but for the reasons I mentioned above.
She wants to make sure he is ok, not suicidal and to let him know that he will always be a part of the family to an extent. My sister , T says she doesn't mind; that this would be ok.
What do you think?