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Lesser Sex After Recovering From Alcoholic Disease

By April 5, 2012 - 6:05pm
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My boyfriend was an alcoholic when I first met him. But he was not those abusive type. Even though I knew he was an alcoholic, I still love him for who he is as a person and he loves me too. When we started dating, it was like fireworks as most newly dating couples would experience. He needed to see me everyday. He couldn't stop thinking about me all the time. He enjoys talking to me every half hour over the phone. I enjoyed the attention completely. His sex drive was high too. We enjoyed sex almost everyday for 1 month since we started dating.

After that 1 month, he finally took his very own initiative to check into rehabilitation centre to stop his alcoholic problems so that he can enjoy a healthy relationship with me. I was thrilled when he successfully completed his mission. Nobody forced him to go to rehab. He decided on his own and I am proud of him.

Now it is 11 days since he checked out from the rehab and I notice a big change of character and sex drive in him. Character wise, he doesn't seem to need me so strongly as before. He talks lesser .. calls me lesser. Of course we still date everyday. He still asks me out everyday but he seemed so dull and mundane now. I also realise that he no longer have the need to have sex with me everyday. His sex drive slowed down to a near complete stop. He's no longer active and funny as he was when he was an alcoholic.

I still love him without doubt! But I just want to further understand if this is due to a major change in his health that may cause his whole character to change (psychologically and/or physically) and whether if this is a short term problem or it will be permanent.

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Hi neshimaru,

Welcome to EmpowHER.  While a little alcohol can help lower inhibitions, too much can impair your nervous system and lead to fatigue — making it difficult to become aroused. It's great he got help, but the withdrawal of alcochol can also be affecting him.  It's important to let him know how you feel about the changes. Advice him into seeing a doctor soon. He might need to continue  counseling and treatment.



April 6, 2012 - 3:34am
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