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Long distance; emotionally unstable

By Anonymous January 30, 2017 - 11:17am
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I am 20 and my boyfriend is 30. We started as long-distance and now it's been more than a year. He is great and we really fit each other in terms of life-style and values, when I'm not a whiny little bitch.
We tend to talk to each other about everything and take care of each other's needs, but maybe I got spoiled and became overly dependent on his support. When we don't get to spend as much time with each other (me busy with studying or him having his parents visiting), I would start to feel helpless and longing for his attention, sometimes even allow myself to feel miserable so that he could notice and spend time with me. Part of me knows that he is busy or tired with his own life and the right thing to do is to be strong and supportive, but another part never settles without 100% of his attention and love. He teases me about being "emtionally challenged", and I know it is true and I do not want that to hurt our relationship. After crying to him and implicitly or explicitly accusing him of not being there for me, I am always scared that one day he would have enough of me and decide to leave, but every time I get emotionally I seem to lose every bit of control of myself. I would have a hard time to concentrate on anything else, cannot talk to other people and feel so stressed I do not eat for days.

I really want this relationship to last, or at least end without regret. If my emotions become the problem, I probably would hate myself. This does not seem "serious" enough to go to a therapist, but I want some advice and help.

Thank you in advance!

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