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Male Impotence

By December 10, 2011 - 10:59pm
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I have been dating someone for 4 months and our sexual chemistry is quite strong, kisses etc.. He likes to stimulate me in every way, with alot of foreplay, but when it comes time for penetration, he has difficulty maintaining an erection. He was able to maintain one at least once, and seemed overwhelmingly happy so I am thinking this is not an unusual thing for him. He said he ex wouldn't let him go down so not sure if he tried to make her happy or not or what went on there. His ex cheated 3 times, but I have been nothing but faithful and loving and would never cheat... I'm thinking this may need to just be something that takes time and him knowing how much I support him to get past this. I have never had a man with this issue..mine have all had solid erections. Last time we were together, he said under his breath...I am not happy about this at all....he seemed self conscious but held me close and was very sensitive the rest of the night. It is definitely on his mind and makes me sad that he is bothered by it. What to do? He is very proud. We are always very direct and honest when we talk, I don't know if I should bring it up and just tell him...you know..I love you, no worries. If he never had another erection I'd be with him.

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Hi Veegee,

Thank you for your question and welcome to Empowher. Erectile dysfunction is not the easiest topic to talk to your partner about. The main issue is that this he will have to talk to someone about it. Hopefully, if he understands there is an issue, he will see his doctor. Is he open about this subject?



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