Masturbation vs real sex

By meganm March 8, 2014 - 6:53pm

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I have a major problem and im not sure how to deal with it. My man and I have been together for over a year now. There is a 14 year age difference between us...but it doesn't bother me at all. When we first got together everything was great. We had sex constantly. Since we have moved in together...it seems like he would prefer to masturbate to porn then to be with me in that way. If im lucky we have sex once a week....the rest of the time he spends with his hand and his phone. I have asked him in numerous occasions what issuing with me that he would rather watch people have sex instead of having sex himself. The answer I always get is that there is nothing wrong with me, that when we have sex its great, but watching porn nd masturbating is a guy thing that I wldnt understand. Is this normal? Is there something wrong but he doesn't want to tell me and hurt me? How do I make him realize that if he doesnt start spending more time with me then himself then he ill find someone who will?

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Anonymous

Hi meganm

Welcome to EmpowHER. First thing most important in a relationship is communication. If he does not want to listen how you feel, then you might want to try psychotherapy for both of you. Definitely, him not wanting to be intimate with you and just making time for masturbating is not normal. No woman should have to put up with something like this. Seek help for yourself, even if he doesn't want help himself. Hope this was helpful?

Best,

Daisy

March 8, 2014 - 8:26pm