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MY 21 year old boyfriend has no sex drive

By November 27, 2016 - 5:00pm
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Me and my Boyfriend started dating when we were 15 and we are now 21 and been together almost 6 years. We have had our ups and downs and had our trust with each other tested on both parts but have always resolved them and realised how much we love eachother. My boyfriend has a real bad gambling problem and owes me a lot of money as I am the only one that can support him as his dad isn't reliable and only encourages him to bet more. His mum died this year as well, although he wasn't close to her it still hit him hard but that only brought us closer. He promises he will try to get his betting under control but this past year and a half has been a struggle for the both of us but apart from that he is amazing and makes me happier than anyone else in munch life. I know he would do anything for me. HOWEVER about 8 months ago our sex life started to die horribly, I only get to see him twice a week due to him not being able to drive and work so it makes things hard. But in a month I'm lucky to get it twice. I'm not the most confident person I will admit and have only recently started experimenting and trying out new things to keep him keen. But my confidence does hold me back at times. I could go abed completely naked and he wouldn't Get aroused at all.I have spoke to him and he says it's stress and money that causes it as it's always on his mind. I started thinking maybe there's another girl as I don't feel he is attracted to me anymore. But I can't find any evidence and I hate going behind his back to find it. I have asked if he mastibates/watches porn and he says no. But even when he is doing well with his money he has no interest. I'm worried we are more best friends than a couple. Is he staying with me because I've been there for him and he owes me ? Or could he be telling the truth? Or does he not want to be alone ? I'm so depressed about this now I have no idea what to do I feel so unattractive no matter what any one else tells me.

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