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My 24yr old fiance doesn't want to have sex?

By December 16, 2016 - 11:54am
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My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now(both 24) and recently enagaged two months ago. I know how much he loves me but our sex life isn't there and weve talked about it countless times where he's says it's not me he just doesn't have any sexual desires. Hes says hes attracted to me but he just doesnt know how to want it. I asked if he watches porn or if he's interested in anyone else and he said no he doesn't have the drive at all. We haven't had sex in almost 3 months. I don't need sex all the time but this is getting ridiculous. I don't know what to do I've confronted him countless times over the past 3 months about this and nothing has changed. I love him so much but I'm scared to marry him if this is what our future holds. Please someone help.

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Hi I am a male and was in a similar situation before where I was avoiding sex.In my opinion we don't need sex for a healthy relationship.There are other things more important than sex so no need to break up.How would you feel if your boyfriend was ready for sex and you avoided him.Would you want him to leave?Can you masturbate instead of worrying about sex?You get the same result.
He could be avoiding you because of performance anxiety.Some men have no problem getting an erection from masturbating but when it comes to sex they can't get an erection because of performance anxiety.
As a matter of fact I am married now for 4 years and there were times when I avoided sex because of performance anxiety issues.I thought I would never get an erection.My past relationships the same.Eventually I did had sex so just be patient.

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