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My Boyfriend and I are intimate about twice a month

By Anonymous February 25, 2015 - 5:42pm
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....if I'm lucky. My boyfriend & I are never intimate. I'm 26, he's 28. We have a wonderful relationship, we have lots in common, a lot to talk and laugh about daily! We're happy with each other. However, there's no intamacy. When we first met two years ago, he would be the one to initiate the sex, we moved in together about a year and a half ago then he stopped initiating sex, so I did. He does have a physically stressful job, which is why I take care of him. I give him massages often, and I make him feel loved. I compliment him, and in my opinion, I take really good care of him because I genuinely care for the guy. Now, when I try to initiate sex, he has no sexual response to my touch, kiss, words. We haven't had sex in ten days, and before that, 12 days, and before that 8 days, he doesn't even look at me the way he used to. I can walk out of the shower naked and he won't even look up from what he's doing on his phone and look at me. I don't what how to talk to him about a situation like this, I've tried before, but he seemed to get uncomfortable. I don't know what to do. If I should move on. How do I break up with him when everything else in our relationship is going wonderfully?? Better than any other relationship I've had before. I need advice. Please Help.

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No one ever seemed to answer this question? Why is it that men are like this?! I wish I knew the answer to help you.

May 4, 2018 - 3:07pm
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Anon
Nobody can answer this question other than the man involved in the situation. Women need to start asking their partners about the relationship. Strangers can only hazard a lot of guesses since the man involved is unknown to them.

May 6, 2018 - 11:44am
EmpowHER Guest

Did you end up leaving him or did things work out? I have the same situation

October 10, 2017 - 11:16am
EmpowHER Guest

I am Suffering exactly the same thing but the diff he's 34 and I'm 29 and we are engaged, before we used to have sex all the time and now is like once in a month I don't know what to do I have talk to him asking him if is me ? Or maybe he does t want to be with me in that way anymore ? But he say he is just really tired , he has a very stressful work as a butcher in a slaughterhouse, I don't know what to do anymore and I start to feel really bad about it ,

August 5, 2017 - 11:00am
EmpowHER Guest

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I'm now 23 and he's 24. So we're both still young and we're having sex roughly 2-3 times a month. I try to kiss him tickle him etc and sometimes no reaction! Our relationship is also great we laugh everyday and we have great communication but the sex part isn't very good? Help

July 14, 2017 - 4:24pm
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