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My boyfriend and I haven't had sex in 5 months what do I do

By Anonymous July 14, 2017 - 8:48pm
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My boyfriend and I haven't had sex in 5 months. During the time we last had sex we hadn't had sex before that in 6 months. I've asked him about it many times. He always come to bed really late hours as in 3/4:00am in which I'm already asleep for hours because of having to get up at 6:30am for work. When I bring the subject up he always get on defense saying I don't initiate. I then told him how can I when after he get off work he goes to workout and it's late before he gets in and even more late when he come to bed. I've never been in a relationship where I've had to have the issue of no sex. Our relationship did not start out this way and being in it currently because of this makes me unhappy. I told him that after me bringing it up once again this last time I'm no longer speaking on it. I'm tired of feeling like I have to badger him to have sex with me. It's getting to the point where I'm becoming no longer interested because I don't want to feel like he's just having sex with me from bringing the issue up to him often.

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Hello, Anon.

Thank you for your message.

I think if he is not willing to discuss this issue in an honest way, you may need to move on. You have made many attempts. You can't get blood from a stone as the saying goes. He has gotten you to the point, where you are not interested in sex (with him) and I can't blame you. Can you accept living without a satisfying sexual relationship? Only you can answer this.


July 15, 2017 - 5:00am
(reply to Helena)

No I can't see living this way. I'm not a cheater and never have but for the first time I often think about stepping out. :(

July 15, 2017 - 5:49am
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