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My boyfriend masterbates while i was in the next room asleep.

By March 30, 2013 - 4:01pm
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My boyfriend works graveyard and I tend to fall asleep on the couch and when he came back, he told me to go sleep in the room because he was going to watch movies. I fell asleep in the room and out of nowhere I walked into the living room, there he was masterbating and looking at his phone. He was embarrassed and he stop, followed me back to bed and tried to be cool about it. I started to question myself. Like why was he doing that while I was in the next room. Im always up for sex and he knows that. So I got angry and I asked him if he isn't satisfied with me, why couldn't he just woke me up to have sex. Is he bored with our sex life.? I need help. Don't knw what to think.

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I think he didn't want to bother u. Regardless tlk w/him to clear things up. hope u do ^^

April 3, 2013 - 8:30pm
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Men are sometimes just men with no real explanation. In reality, I think he was doing you a favor letting you rest instead of waking you up. I don't think you should be angry with him for this instance unless he chooses to masturbate all the time and no longer has sex with you....I think this instance may have been just him trying to leave you alone. Take it as a positive thing.

Hope this helps.


March 31, 2013 - 6:32am

If you are uncomfortable with him looking at porn and masterbating then you need to discuss that with him. If you have a healthy sex life there is no reason for porn. It can cause a man to have unrealistic expectations and is disrespectful.

March 30, 2013 - 11:02pm

Im not an expert or anything, but maybe you could try being a little more spontaneous with your sex life and see how he reacts to it.

March 30, 2013 - 10:22pm
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