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My boyfriend scares me really badly sometimes

By August 19, 2013 - 10:26pm
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My boyfriend and I are at the stage in our relationship where we start to argue more and things frustrate us more. We're out of the 'honeymoon phase' haha and I want everything to be okay and we always say what's on our minds instead of holding it up inside of us, but sometimes my boyfriend scares me and makes me feel depressed. I know that it's really not okay that he does this but I don't want to argue so I just take it. He abuses me verbally and calls me names but after he says he's just kidding and that he's really sorry, I don't know what to do and it hurts me so badly sometimes. I've even tried telling him how much it hurts and he said that I deserve it, I know he doesn't mean it though and he's just mad. I know I don't deserve that kind of treatment but I don't want to leave him. I've always seen women who go through this and wonder why they don't just leave and now I understand. Please help I don't know what to do!

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Hi Emily B,

Welcome to EmpowHER.  You need to start to understand this is not a healthy relationship.  With time all this verbal abuse will get worst. No kind of abuse, should be tolerated from anyone.  Please get help, you need to let a friend or parent know what you are going through.  You need to stay away from him for a while and try to get yourself some counseling first. A psychotherapist will help you understand this is not normal in a relationship.

Please keep us posted,


August 20, 2013 - 3:22am
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