My boyfriend wants to make love to me

By Auka17 July 18, 2010 - 2:37pm

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My boyfriend who is 21 wants to make love to me and I am 19 year old female. We have prader willi syndrome I can have children by having more estrogen and getting on the pill, but I do want to also to make love to him to, It is just that i want to see him , but I don't think my mom will let me because of how moms are. I'll probably come back pregnant, but I need to be on the estrogen pill to start my period and my mom said that I can still have children from reading on line. So making love does it have to be like having sex? Is that what he means right? He lives with his mom and his stepdad and so do I. Can you or should I say can I still get pregnant when I still have eggs in my ovarries and ovalating inside me, but have estrogen and need more because they don't have enough. Since I need to be on the estrogen pill to have my period or do I need to have a period to get pregnant? Do you have to have your period to get pregnant to have children because I really want to have children of my own and it is looking like my boyfriend he wants to do the same since he said he wants to make love to me?

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Alison Beaver

Hi Auka17,

One important key in your relationship is...communication! If you ask a million people what their definition of "making love" is and "having sex", you would receive a million different responses about the details. If you are planning to be physically intimate with your boyfriend, and he with you, it is imperative that you both FIRST feel comfortable enough with each other to talk about what he means by "making love", and what do you want to do? You seem to be more concerned with doing what he wants you to do...and I want to make sure that YOU also want to "make love" or "have sex" with your boyfriend.

Usually when someone says "make love", they mean they want to have penis-to-vagina intercourse. There are so many different definitions of "sex" as I mentioned above, but the typical response is that "making love" and "having sex" involve intercourse.

You mentioned that "we" have prader willi syndrome, does that mean both you and your boyfriend? Depending on the severity, the sex organs of males and females can be underdeveloped, and only a doctor can tell you if you are able to conceive or not. It sounds like you have been told that you are able to have children with the addition of hormones. Are you currently having menstrual periods? You mentioned that you ovulate, correct?

If you do not want to become pregnant now, you need to talk with your boyfriend about birth control. If you have even the slightest chance of becoming pregnant without additional hormones, you must use birth control and not have "unprotected sex", as there is a risk of pregnancy. A condom is a great birth control, as it is relatively inexpensive, accessible (can be bought at any drugstore/pharmacy, grocery store, convenience store) and easy to use. If this is your boyfriend's first time using a condom, he should practice putting a condom on and off a few times before having sex with you.

Does this answer all of your questions?

July 18, 2010 - 7:33pm

Auka17 (reply to Alison Beaver)

Yes this does answer all of my questions a lot thank you. No I am not currently having a menstrual periods, and yes I do ovulate because I do have eggs in my ovarries waiting to develope as children, but I don't have enough hormons. So I need more estrogen and my doctors want to put me on the estrogen pill so that I can start my menstrual periods. So then I can have a more possibility to have children, but my boyfriend and I met somewere were they specialize in prader will syndrome in Pittsburg Pensylvania. Yes we both have prader will he is 21 and I am 19. We had time to do something together there, but didn't happened and I told him on the phone that we could make it happen. He reminded me that I'm still in school and I said yea I am, but I am still in high school and have to stay another year before going to college. My boyfriend is 21 not in college, but working and we miss each other. He misses me so baad and he can't wait to make love to me, but neither can I wait and making love. Making love does he mean making out like just kissing or what. Yes I do want to make love to my boyfriend and have sex, but don't understand. Please write back. Thank you.

July 19, 2010 - 8:13am