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My husband doesnt show interest in making love

By Anonymous September 17, 2010 - 9:53am
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I am 28 yrs old and married for 3.5 yrs to the man i love.We havent planned yet. Mine is a love marriage and I am happy with my life except recently when I have started feeling that my husband doesnt want to make love to me. I dont know whether it is his work related stress or his habit of smoking that is resulting in low desire.Its been one month to be precise since we last made love. I keep trying but he avoids saying that he is too tired. Please help me. i dont want my love life to wither away at this early age.For me sex is a way of communocating my love and feelings to my husband. I love him very much. Please help me.Is there any way to improve his interest & excitement in sex.

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Was he always this way? Did you feel at all like this before you married him? Were there signs you ignored, hoping or expecting that all would change after you got married? What's you relationship like outside of the bedroom? Are you willing to be creative, daring during sex, or do you have certain hangups that keep you from being free during sex? Is he physically in good shape? Most importantly, how does the communication about this subject go? Does it stop after he declares he's too tired, without explanation? Is he open to going to couples therapy with you to look into this issue further if you cannot talk productively about it? You ARE too young to have to accept this kind of marriage, but there may be a reason for it that has a solution that you haven't discovered yet. Good luck to you!

September 17, 2010 - 7:08pm
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Anon - Sadly, you're not alone in experiencing this. You may find it helpful to read this thread, which is one of the most commented ones on the site, and see what other women are experiencing and hear their thoughts on ways to deal with this. Good luck! Pat

September 17, 2010 - 5:48pm
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