my husband and i have been married 18 years. Just over 2 years ago he had an affair and on confronting him said needed sexual excitement. We worked through it, or so i thought. About 2 months ago i noticed he avoided me and i questioned him, just said he had some issues he needed to deal with. two nights ago it was too much for me to keep this distance between us and told him we needed to resolve whatever it was that was bothering him. Well he shocked me,said that he couldnt have sex with me because i dont satisfy him, excite. He claims he loves me and wants to stay married to me and support me. But would get his satisfaction elsewhere in future, not yet but that it was inevitable. I was blown away. He is expecting me to work for our family , be his "friend" ,maid, and a 'nun' while he goes out and has his fun and comes home to me who does the rest. Does anyone know how i should deal with this?