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Not feeling anything during sex

By Anonymous April 23, 2012 - 9:30am
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I don't feel anything during sex. I was a virgin until I was 28 I lost my virginity to my ex boyfriend last year. We only had sex a few times but I never felt anything. Initially at first it felt good then nothing. I never had a vaginal orgasm. Is there something wrong with me? Should I go to the Gyno and get checked out? What is the matter with me?

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I have the same problems. I've tried masturbating, my boyfriends done oral, and even basic sex. I just don't feel anything. I feel the pressure and him inside me but there is just no pleasure. I also have no problem getting wet which makes me think maybe I'm just not clued in on the fun. Its frustrating and also a bit embarressing.

April 28, 2012 - 8:30pm
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Hi Susan thanks for the response. I will admit Porn does ruin it. I've watched porn hey I'll admit it. And I was expecting sex to be like that. You have to understand I am sexually inexperienced I've only had sex like 4-5 times max. And to add to it I am a bit confused about my sexuality. I'm bi- sexual. I've never been with a woman. I got a lot of issues. I don't know if sex with a guy isn't appealing to me or doesn't turn me on? I could feel something inside of me defiantly but I just lost interest. It kind of hurt at one point but then I didn't feel anything. It wasn't numb just nothing at all. I also need to mention my ex was on the rather small side. I don't know what is the matter. I kind of summed it up to some possible reasons:

1. I am homosexual
2. I never was really sexually satisfied yet
3. I wasn't ready
4. My ex was too small and couldn't please me
5. I need someone more experienced
6. It's a medical problem

April 23, 2012 - 5:15pm
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