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By September 15, 2011 - 7:30am
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I am a finishing graduate student finishing my MA thesis. I am also undergoing personal changes in my life. People who were there earlier are no longer in my life, I have moved from my apartment back at the university and live at home. My days are spent working on my thesis, on facebook, and here.
However, when it comes time to sleep, even after a great day like yesterday when my boy friend and I had a wonderful one-on-one session through skype. I was cool, calm, and collected yet I got up on 2am. I couldn't sleep due to personal grief and unknown reasons.

Since I returned home from my school back in August (where I had been living with my best friends and bf), I have been having sleepless nights. At exactly 2am or 4am, my eyes suddenly open and I am wide awake. It takes me longer to return back to sleep. How do I bring my life back to normal? My friends are all in other states as that's where I had done my schooling and my friends back home are busy in their lives or have moved on. I spend most of my day finishing my thesis. I also have to worry about Phd applications and giving GRE, yet I have not heard back from advisor about my current status. How do I make my life productive and satisfying as it was last year at this time? What steps do I take to get a full night's sleep?

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Great news! I'm glad your taking positive steps!

September 17, 2011 - 12:08pm

Hi Rosa,
I took you up on the offer, actually already have plans lined up for this weekend and next weekend. I am catching up with my friends over this weekend and the following weekend so it will be enjoyable and a nice change. My evening was spent last night with my mom. We had gone to see a film. I am also refreshed and ready to make progress on the thesis. I am considering working on a cafe and joining a gym so that my routine is structured like it used to be back in the university campus. I mean last time, this year was eventful and fun. I was teaching, learning, reading, and also applying to programs. I guess you can say I had a quarter-life crisis last semester with culmination of work, personal life dilemmas, and so on. But, I think it will all work out for the best.
Thanks for your advice, I will keep you posted! I am currently just waiting on my absent advisor. I am on my final draft and yet no response from her if I am in the right direction or not!

September 16, 2011 - 8:30am

Thanks Rosa! Yes, I have to work 7-8 hours on my thesis. So on and off my mind drifts having the habit of socializing. Yes, I realize that I need to socialize more often. I will be getting things on the line. I will be making more efforts, I had to deal with a personal crisis this week and finally got it out of my system. Part of me still grieving but am trying to focus on productive things in life.

September 15, 2011 - 9:46am
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Hi Anonymous,

In times of stress and crisis, it is absolutely normal to have a hard time sleeping, focusing, etc. You may find your mind wandering and making it incredibly difficult to concentrate. These are all normal human responses to challenging situations-- what's important is to always find a way to make it through those hard times. Don't get me wrong, it's fine to go on Facebook and browse through websites after hours upon hours of working hard-- just consider other alternatives such as going out for a short walk, paying a phone call to a friend, or working on your thesis from the outside of a Cafe where you can enjoy the fresh air as well as possibly meet someone with similar interests. Sometimes all we really need is a subtle change from our every day routine to get out of that "rut" we're in.

Good Luck, Anon!


September 16, 2011 - 7:45am


Congratulations on being almost done with Grad School! Your final semester of grad school can be extremely overwhelming by itself-- now that you've moved back home, it seems like you're missing an element that was helping you get through your nights-- that being your boyfriend and friends. It's important that you keep your eye on the prize-- Graduation. As hard as it seems, you can do this. I'm sure you can see the finish line from here and don't let anything stop you. In order for you to get a good nights rest, you must come to the realization that your boyfriend and friends are not physically there, but they will be soon enough. You are experiencing a normal reaction. Try socializing with friends that remained in your home town or making new ones-- as opposed to spending all that time here and on Facebook. It may decrease some of that stress and anxiety that you're feeling.



September 15, 2011 - 9:15am
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