So, I have a perplexing situation that I desperately need clarity on.
My husband and I have been married for 3 years. We got married suddenly within 2 months of knowing each other. We were sexually active from the start. We would both initiate sex and it wouldn't be a problem. However he would not allow me to show him any other signs of physical affection outside of sex (kissing, hugging, cuddling, holding hands etc.)
I thought I'd simply give it time and he would come around to it. Now it's been 3 years and he loves to initiate any form of physical affection. He hugs, kisses, cuddles, and holds me. But here comes the tricky part! He never allows me to initiate touching him unless on the rare occasion and after just a couple seconds he tells me to stop!! He will never allow me to simply give him a back massage unless he specifically asked fit it. He doesn't allow me to kiss him spontaneously. I have to ask him, but even then he often says no!
It really makes me confused and mad at times! I want to show him so much love and I have to sit there with my hands holded. It KILLS me!!
Is it a common thing for men to do?? Can a childhood trauma cause this??
Does anyone else's husband do this??
Thanks for any input in advance.