Facebook Pixel
EmpowHER Guest

question about condoms

By Anonymous May 13, 2009 - 3:35pm
Rate This

with my last boyfriend we tried using the textured condoms (the "for her pleasure" ones) a few times. They would work, as in they would stimulate me more, but after not too long (about 5-10 minutes) the skin on the out side of my vagina would start to hurt, kind of like it was rubbed raw. Is this normal?

Add a Comment3 Comments

EmpowHER Guest

This is so true. I have experienced this as well. I no longer use them either just as the above post noted, even with lubrication, it still rubs you raw. Are you using them for stimulation purposes or for protection purposes?

May 17, 2009 - 9:54am
EmpowHER Guest

I had that same experience, too. We had to stop using those "ribbed for her pleasure" condoms, even with additional lubrication (we used Astroglide), because it just hurt and felt like I was being rubbed raw. Good for you for trying new things, and using protection! There are some other condoms that you might like better.

May 14, 2009 - 11:47am

Hi, Anon. So glad you found us at EmpowHer.

Sure, what you're experiencing is just irritation from the texture of the condom having friction against your skin. The tissue in the genital area is sensitive, and yours may be more sensitive than that of others.

(In the same category would be rug burns on knees or elbows, for instance, when having sex with a partner on the floor. We simply aren't used to the friction of the rug on our skin.)

Did you use any lubricant when you used the textured condoms? I am wondering if something like that would help protect the skin.

Maybe keep both kinds of condoms around -- plain and textured -- and see if using one kind, and then the other kind, would help. If not, you may just have to use regular condoms and perhaps experiment with different positions to help with your stimulation.

But in the meantime, yes, just know that it's normal for you to be feeling what you're feeling. Don't hesitate to speak up to your partner if it's just not working for you. Sex should be fun, and it's not fun when you hurt.

May 14, 2009 - 9:25am
Enter the characters shown in the image.
By submitting this form, you agree to EmpowHER's terms of service and privacy policy
Add a Comment

All user-generated information on this site is the opinion of its author only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions. Members and guests are responsible for their own posts and the potential consequences of those posts detailed in our Terms of Service.

Sex & Relationships

Get Email Updates

Resource Centers

Sex & Relationships Guide

HERWriter Guide

Have a question? We're here to help. Ask the Community.


Health Newsletter

Receive the latest and greatest in women's health and wellness from EmpowHER - for free!