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By November 3, 2017 - 4:35pm
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There was a boy with whom i started conversation since June..we both became good friends ...we first time met in academy..He is actually a very hardworking student...heused to share his everything with me i mean every personal issue..the thing was he was rejected by a girl last year..so after that this thing made him think bad about girls..that they can not be sincere and etc..well this year he got me...he told me everything about his past..we both actually became best friends...well i proposed him and he accepted it we had been in a good relationship just for a short time ..suddenly one day he became so rude that it was very difficult for me to believe that he was the same person i am talking too...who was something elz yesterday..i guess the biggest mistake i committed was that i begged him to stay..well when i asked him the reason behind this rudeness he said that it was being difficult for him to to go through relation..he wanted peace..no fights and he said that he can never control a girl..well we agreed to remain friends because when we were in relation he said that if we brokeup , we will remain friends..he was knowing that i still love him ...we had a good time after that even..sometimes we discussed our relationship time...his views about the girl was always same..he did not even realize he hurted me...i asked him if he wants me to leave..he said no...but the thing is whenever we talked we had a fight i mean he simply sometimes reply to my question that i dont care..what ever you want to do u can do...he even called me psycho because of my love for him..i always tried to show him positive side of life..he thinks that people are worst..no one is sincere not even friends everytime i tried to explain him..EVERYTIME...but he is not ready to believe these things..last week i also talked him the way he talked me i mean rude...i know he did not like my behaviour...once i said him that you dont deserve loyal and sincere girls at that time i was actually fed up..!! the day before yesterday i wrote him a goodbye message on facebook and did not block..well he still knows that i love him..he replied me first that he is always here for me if i want any help but then he said that i should not go like this..he thinks i am angry and that is why i said him goodbye then he said that he has nothing to say not even goodbye..well today again we ended up becoming friends..he said that he has a short friend circle and i am in it...these days he is going through some difficult times and i asked him again and again but he didnt tell me he just said that good doesnt exist in this world..it is useless to show middle finger to this world..jst prepare yourself for the end...and then he said that in this message is his answer ..i didnt understand at what thing he was pointing at and then he said never ask me again about my problems i said as u wish...i dont know what to do..should i leave him or should i stay ..i mean i had never been rude to him but once..but his behaviour is not good ..he talks to me and he had never ever ignored my single message from the beginning till now....i think to block him but than i end up doing nothing because i have sympathy for him and his situation he is going through or may be i love him alot..i told him that i take him as a friend but he knows that i love him and etc please help me...i am really very depressed.. i cant think of letting him go..it makes me cry well this time i really need a sincere advice so that i can act upon it...i want to make him realize that he did bad to me , i have always helped him ...i really have feelings for him...he is a cold blooded person..i dont know what to do plz help me..:(

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Hello, sana iqbal. Thank you for writing.

Good relationships and friendships are hard to find. When you have a good one, that makes you happy and brings you joy, it's worth keeping. But this does not seem to be the case, based on your information. Neither of you seems happy. It's ok to part ways if something just isn't working. It happens. Also, the thing about preparing for the end of the world and not seeing the good in anyone is concerning to me. What might be going on in his head with these kinds of thoughts. So keep this in mind.


November 3, 2017 - 5:25pm
(reply to Helena)

i had tried my best to keep everything in right place but just because of his thoughts about his surroundings are creating trouble...do you think that he wants to leave me...because if today i end up or may be block..the only thing he will think is that i did bad with him..and i really dont want him to think this about me.....i want him to realize his mistake...do u think things will work out...??

November 3, 2017 - 9:26pm
Guide (reply to sana iqbal)


Women often think it's their job to fix men. But it's not. In my experience, you can't make a person realize their mistakes. They need to realize it on their own. Sometimes they do, sometimes not. The choice is yours to make - to continue this relationship or not.


November 4, 2017 - 5:49am
(reply to Helena)

And do u think that he will realize it may be not today but someday..???...

November 4, 2017 - 7:44am
(reply to Helena)

So what do u think that should I block him , unfriend him on Facebook or let him remain my friend on Facebook and never message him....???

November 4, 2017 - 7:42am
Guide (reply to sana iqbal)


I cannot tell you what to do. I have given you my thoughts on this. I'm not in the situation. I can only offer general observations based on your information. Good luck in whatever you decide.


November 4, 2017 - 12:21pm
(reply to Helena)

Well I think that neither should i leave nor text..
That's better option right now..:)maybe things may not go right but slowly slowly I will try to move on..I will surely heal with the time..and whenever I will meet him ..ignoring will be the best option..!!!!

November 4, 2017 - 12:48pm
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