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Sexless relationship

By January 31, 2011 - 9:29pm
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My boyfriend and I have been together for alittle over a year and we have little to no sex life anymore. He either watches or downloads porn all the time, and masterbates.He won't touch me but maybe once a month. And i think he only has sex with me that much because he feels bad. I need help, Do we need counselling or do I need to change? What do I do?

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Hi i have a similar sit. My bf and i are both 19 yr olds, and after having sex around 5 - 10 times, he tells me he wants to stop bcos he is guilty. What should i do?

February 7, 2011 - 1:43pm

Hello, I have a friend who has been together with her boyfriend for over half a year. They have had sex, however, after missing her period twice in false pregnancy alarms, he does not want to do it ever again, apparently. My fiance and I tell them its okay to have sex but with protection is important, however it is like he swore celibacy from then on. How should i tell the girl how to accept this?

February 7, 2011 - 12:10pm

my boyfriend and i have been together for a little over a month and we are both in our mid 20's and career driven individuals. Since together we have had sex 3 times and it was off the chart!! he didnt breaain tho as he said he needs to go for 2 hours before he can!! he said he doesnt masturbate sooo unsure why so long!! Now on the 4 occasion we decided to be a bit wild and have sex in his suv as we did on the 3rd time and the rush was so great we decided we wanted to try it again!! he insists on going down on me as i have no complains on that!! after me episode we went to have sex and he was partially errected and then decided to go down on me again i was like what the hell!! so i stopped him and he said he am just worried we got caught its not u!! How do i analyse this as we had a lunch date that day and he said he couldnt make it cause he had a meeting and he was having a really busy day!! am i over thinking the situation? Also when he comes over i always have to get him to leave as he never wants too and he was insisting he got home to have a shower as he doesnt have clothes over at mine!!

February 2, 2011 - 4:27am


I am sorry you are going through this. I found very similar stories to yours and thought you may want to read through them.

Hope they help.



February 1, 2011 - 6:55am
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If he's just your boyfriend, I'm sorry, but you should totally move on. He should respect you fully and care about you. You can't make him have sex with you, that's illegal, but you can find someone who will treat you right.

January 31, 2011 - 9:58pm
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