My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years now. A while ago I asked him not to watch porn anymore, because it bothered me. Now he's confessed to me that he does sometimes (not often) and that he also checks out other girls. He always told me that I was the only girl who really caught his eye, and I believed him because he's the only guy who catches mine. I've been very understanding about the situation, I told him I was sorry and that he could watch porn. But I'm afraid of what might come of that. I've heard stories of men who decide they like porn better or who desire other people more than their spouses. I want to be the only one he desires. I also don't understand how he can be so completely attracted to me and in love with me, but still think about other people. He told me that he has had sexual fantasies about them. I've haven't thought of anyone other than him like that in the whole time we've been together. I don't see the difference between cheating and wishing he could have sex with other people. Who cares if he doesn't actually do anything? He still WANTS to, and that bothers me more than anything else. Now I keep looking at girls, wondering what he'd think of them. He said he just automatically checks females out and decides how attractive they are. Isn't that sort of the mentality a single man should have?
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