I'm sorry I dont' know where this goes but I need some advice. Currently I live at home (23 yo) because I am in a professional program with high tutition cost. My parents have always been supportive of me only if it's something they agree with (like my school). They never allowed me to have a job because "education comes first," but often holds that over my head when they disagree with something. They always put me down (calls me names and shames me on a daily basis) and my friends down. I clean for them and do all the housechores. I jump when they say jump bascially.
Right now it's worse because I for once did something that I wanted to do. I dated a guy that they disagreed with due to superficial reasons. He's from a poor area, broken home, going into a career they deem useless (counseling), many illnesses run in his family and he's Asain. I understand their anger in the sense that I hid this relationship from them for 9 months, but I have a feeling that if this was anyone from my school (pharmacy) they wouldn't have reacted in the following way: total isolation (no TV, phone, internet, facebook (I am currently on a school library) or anything electronic), constant shaming, I am not to see him anymore, nor my friends because I shamed my parents for letting htem know but not them, and they have to monitor my internet and phone calls at all times.
I feel that this is extreme and I can't deal with this anymore. I want to move out but I am afraid. I don't know if I can survive on my own. I don't know what would happen to my sister if I leave. There's so many uncertainties that I have chest pains from it.
Would moving out be the best option? I feel sitting down and talking about this will not solve anything only further their anger into conflict. Please help.
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