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unwanted unloved mind out of control please help

By December 8, 2010 - 1:32pm
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i have been in a relationship for nearly 8 years i am 24 and my partner is much older then me we have been through alot together and we have always had a relationship where we just take the mick out of each other we have never really been loving as such but i always feel loved and wanted and like i was the one he wanted,
but for the past few months especially i just feel like rubbish my partner is making me feel like im no good and i get the feeling that he doesnt want me there are no kisses cuddles saying i love yous unless i say it first theres no real conversations just bickering when i first went out with him i had the attitude as i dont care what people think or what they do if they dont like me then fine a year into the relationship i got really jelous i am so jelous i cant explain i always accuse him of things etc... i think i have calmed down from years ago but i am still really jelous hes a flirty person but its like he has a laugh with other women and can talk for hours to other women but when hes around me on my own theres nothing he always stresses at me and i do at him its like he cant have a laugh with me its unreal and makes me feel worthless also he keeps saying whats up with ya face like im in a mood just because im not smiling 24/7 but hes the same the only time he involves me in conversations really when we are around other women but its not conversation its more like takin the mick out of me i feel like he be littles me or puts me down all the time i feel like hes not interested in me whats so ever and the sex side of things has gone straight out the window we have sex now and then mainly when he wants it but its not as passionate as it was before its like he doesnt care what so ever he says he stressed thats why but how come hes not stressed when he wants it? i have said loads of things to him about how i feel and how he makes me feel and he just says im stupid or im being silly i constantly feel down because i love him so much and i want to believe he feels the same but it doesnt come across that way i feel no emotion from him at all im sick of askingh im to recieve the same answer we are arguing more and more and he says its all me im making problems etc... i have tried everything i dont know what to do anymore most of the time he is like this then on the odd occasion he seems a bit better but because its constantly on my mind i cant stand being around him because i constantly feel like this i have sat and thought things through and keep coming up with nothing i have tried explain and talk doesnt work any ideas what could be wrong or how i can change this its really not healthy but he sees everything as fine but thats because im not making him feel how hes making me feel i do love him and want things to work we have been together to long to go seperate ways i want to be with him but cant understand his actions please help i know this is long but i dont know what else to do i feel like im loosing everything including my mind

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kerry - It sounds like, minimally, you would benefit from obtaining professional counseling and that couples therapy might be beneficial too. Although the following article is on marriage counseling it has good information for you to consider. https://www.empowher.com/sex-amp-relationships/content/marriage-counseling-advocacy-sheet

December 9, 2010 - 4:19pm
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