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What can I do about my HIGH sex drive, I'm 47, female, married

By September 17, 2009 - 7:50pm
 
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In the past say 4-6 months my sex drive has gone crazy high. I want sex all the time.
But my hubby of 28 yrs, doesn't share that want, well when he was 18 he did. We talked about it and when my drive was low, he masterbated, so I tried, it's ok, it helps some what, but it's not intense like when he helps, we do have sex say 2 times a week. And he tries hard to help me orgasum. And when I do it's long and wonderful. When I masterbated by myself it's short multi orgasums, 4-5 at one sitting. Which helps for a while. I've been on line, I do look at say Nude Photography. I've never signed into any sex site like that. I tend to like to look at females or lisbians, to see what they do. Big penis' don't turn me on, it's what my hubby can do for me. I've been reading alot more books on sex... Please can you give me any ideas. But here's the big thing, I LOVE IT, it makes me feel so energize to have oragasums, it gives me this good feeling, I keggle all day, that gives me a lift too.

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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I am a 45 yr old female that did not have any desire for sex for about 2yrs up until now. My sex drive is sky high and i want sex 24hours a day . Thank god a have a good husband that was able to understand me through those days and was vey patient with me. Let me tell you if you where myhusband and told me I was USELESS you would of had divorce papers the following day. You yourself are a selfish useless husband . Maybe its you and not her! It sounds to me you are those type of men that dont care if their partner has an orgasm or not aslong as you are content who cares about the rest. Do not be suprised if she has a side kick on the side and thats the reason why she doesnt care to have sex with you..

September 4, 2016 - 9:18pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I agree with the 45 yr old women. You call your wife useless... No wonder she doesn't want to have v sex with you. Treat her as if she was the best thing that ever happened to you, because she most likely is.. If she is not seeing someone else she should be... A women's body odd the most amazing and beautiful creation on earth.. Treat her as so and you'll see the difference...

December 27, 2016 - 9:40am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Huh. I can't IMAGINE why a woman wouldn't want to have sex with you when you tell her she's "useless." Don't be surprised if she serves you divorce papers. You'd certainly deserve it.

March 20, 2016 - 8:27am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I am 49 and wife 42 since last 2 to 3 years my drive has gone down and during same time wife's desire have increased. All this while we have been loyal to each other. Recently i came across a friend 45 whose wife has been showing coldness and he is lot frustrated. After some thought i coaxed both my friend and my wife to help each other. After initial reluctance both agreed and we are all happy now.

August 7, 2015 - 10:48pm

Hi dfhallindf,

You mentioned that this has been going on for about the past 4-6 months. I'm curious, did anything change in that time? Are you on a new medication or on hormone therapy? Did something in your life change (weight loss, diet, perhaps a new level of fitness?) that may have brought this on? To what do you attribute the change?

I thought you might be interested in this article about high sex drive and some things that may affect the libido:

http://www.ehow.com/about_5243454_reasons-high-sex-drive-women.html

September 21, 2009 - 5:20pm
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Anonymous (reply to Diane Porter)

Almost certainly hormones. Both women and men get sex mad when they go on hormone supplements. If it lasts for more than a few months the supplements need to be adjusted.

August 14, 2016 - 7:13am
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