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What can I do about my HIGH sex drive, I'm 47, female, married

By September 17, 2009 - 7:50pm
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In the past say 4-6 months my sex drive has gone crazy high. I want sex all the time.
But my hubby of 28 yrs, doesn't share that want, well when he was 18 he did. We talked about it and when my drive was low, he masterbated, so I tried, it's ok, it helps some what, but it's not intense like when he helps, we do have sex say 2 times a week. And he tries hard to help me orgasum. And when I do it's long and wonderful. When I masterbated by myself it's short multi orgasums, 4-5 at one sitting. Which helps for a while. I've been on line, I do look at say Nude Photography. I've never signed into any sex site like that. I tend to like to look at females or lisbians, to see what they do. Big penis' don't turn me on, it's what my hubby can do for me. I've been reading alot more books on sex... Please can you give me any ideas. But here's the big thing, I LOVE IT, it makes me feel so energize to have oragasums, it gives me this good feeling, I keggle all day, that gives me a lift too.

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I am a 37-year-old female, and in the last year, my sex drive has gone through the roof. I absolutely do not want anyone else but my husband. However, I think about sex constantly. I want him all the time, everywhere, anywhere. It is not appropriate. We have an eight-year-old son, and we are busy people. But I find myself thinking about 'doing' my husband constantly. He recently received a transplant, so we went a long while completely sex free. Now that he has recovered, we have sex about 2-3 times per week. If it were up to me, it would be 2-3 times per day! My husband and I are high school sweet hearts, and we've known each other since childhood, but I am having a difficult time talking to him about this. I feel like a pervert. I find myself thinking about sex during any time that my mind wanders. I have even started looking at porn websites (which never did anything for me before). Sexually, things with my husband have always been excellent, with no complaints. But now I can't get enough. I'll 'get there' and immediately want to do it again, and again. It's crazy! I have never been the type to use instruments or toys and masturbation has never been my thing. But I've even begun to try that (masturbation; not toys) just so that I can attempt to get some satisfaction. Again, I am not looking to stray from my marriage, but I have these unbelievable urges that are making me go crazy. I do not understand why I am having these feelings inside, all of a sudden. What can I do? How do I talk to him and is more sex the answer to this? How long does this last?

July 25, 2017 - 5:17pm
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Anon

Tell your husband you'd love more sex with him when he's up for it - tell him how attracted you are to him!
If these feelings are causing an intrusion into your thoughts and life - in other words, if it's negatively over-taking your life, perhaps your doctor can help

July 26, 2017 - 9:46am
EmpowHER Guest

I'm 47 year old male married to my beautiful for over 22 years and lately my sex drive has increased so much and I want my wife even more I'm not looking around I want her even more. I wanted to be more intense, but it's always the case. We have sex 1 to 2 times week and even sometimes never because of our work schedules different days off and I work the graveyard shift so having sex makes it difficult. But I want to pleasure my wife it satisfy me when she orgasms.

May 19, 2017 - 6:43am

I'm 52 and my sex drive is so high and my husband has no sexual desire at all . I'm mastervating. I think is wrong ! WHY IS SO HIGH

May 18, 2017 - 1:45pm
EmpowHER Guest

your husband shouldnt complain my wife is 47 and we have sex about once every 2 months i could do it every day i have to masterbate every day i dont want to do it with another woman she is fantastic in bed so your hubby should have sex with you every day i wish my wife was like you

February 10, 2011 - 11:49pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

47 and feel the same ,omg highest sex drive ever for over 2 years,married for 29 years and have been told that i look to be in my late 20s

January 7, 2017 - 9:19pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Am 37 and my wife 42 we maybe have sex once every week or every 2nd week or can be once in 3 weeks I always desire a 2nd round or maybe the next say I love her and really want her badly in bed it hurts in times when she just plays around with me suck me a bit now tease me but nothing more then that and will stop really hurts in times she will say will have sex later tonight then nothing she will sleep like she never said anything to me I wish my wife was like u

December 19, 2016 - 10:13am
EmpowHER Guest

Hi ' a 50 year old male and my wife 47 years old and I have alweys had a healthy sex life, we make love almost every night for the past 30 years, but lately she has become more intense and can't seem to get enough, our encounters usually last around 50 minutes to an hour or so, never quick, here is the different thing that has been happening for the past six months but not before, as soon as my penis is inside her she goes crazy with desire and orgasms almost immediately and will do so until I am finished which could take 5 minutes or 20, the bed ends up saturated from her juices and now we use towels to help, can you tell me what has brought this on and how long it might last, neither of us are complaining at all, it's wonderfull that she is being fulfilled, I might add my wife has not gone through menopaus as yet, could this be the beginning of it. she tells me that she is horny 24 hours a day 7 days a week.

October 9, 2009 - 5:59am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

sounds so good to me. People like us need to have sex allday.

November 9, 2016 - 8:53am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I am 50, my wife is 47, she refuse all the time have sex with me, i even scold her u are useless lady, in bed she said she is tired turn to other site and sleep, not even hug me during in bed, she is really useless nowadays, i don't want hawker a sort for now, what shall i do.

October 10, 2015 - 1:44pm
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