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What can I do to make him want me?

By November 15, 2010 - 12:34pm
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I'm 27 year old and have been married for 8 years. And my husband has never wanted to have sex with me. We were both virgins when we got married, and maybe have sex twice a month. This has been a problem ever since we got home from our honeymoon. He has never initiated sex and doesn't really seem to care. We have a good relationship, he is kind, loving and sensitive and is wonderful in every other way. But has no interest in making love. I am young, attractive, I work out, dress nice, and do my hair and make up every day. I take care of our children, keep the house clean and cook all the meals. I have read many books and have talked to him about this many many times. He says he loves me, but he's lazy and sex is just too much work. I don't know what to do. Our marriage is more like a friendship and i want more. I want passion and a man who thinks i'm sexy. We haven't even kissed in two weeks. I feel ugly, fat and disgusting and i don't want to feel that way anymore. What should i do?

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jclv4me - You're not alone in this situation. You will find many comments and answers in the following thread: https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/why-doesnt-my-boyfriend-want-have-sex-me-anymore

You may also find the following article on building healthy sexual relationships to be helpful: https://www.empowher.com/sexual-well-being/content/15-questions-help-you-think-about-yourself-your-partner-and-your-relations

November 16, 2010 - 6:21pm
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