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what can i say to my boyfriend?

By June 13, 2011 - 7:01pm
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ok i need helpfull advice on what to say in my situation. And if its normal to be feeling like this. i like to watch porn (mainly guy on girl action and 2 girls one man), tho my boyfriend of one year does not know. He did have porn, tho he deleted it as our relationship was more important to him, which i found really inspiring i mean what man deletes all his porn once he enters a relationship! ( a keeper!) haha. So there is no doubt at all that he does not love me! Now for 1 is it normal for me to like porn being female? 2, will it be rude of me to ask to introduce porn into our sex life? If not how/what do i say to introduce it? I dont want to make him feel as if He is not good enough, as he has had some self confidence issues he sometimes feels like he does not do a good enough job! Which i always say other to him i tell him the truth that he is very good! Ive said before that our sex life can use some spice which i did not mean to hurt him in anyway but everyone knows that the same old stuff can get boring right ? So i introduced a few new positions and i think its made him feel like i am more experienced and he cant keep up with my sexual needs which is not true as he taught me a lot to start with. He is 30 and has had plenty of experience i am 22 and been with very few men (purposely!!) i was not confident with him at first then he bought my confidence out now i feel a bit stupid as his has gone down :/ now i really want to try new things and im scared to ? Please help lol :)any advice would help.

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thankyou for your reply, there is no addiction at all and no religious beliefs, Yes he was in to it as he was single, then the start of our relationship he put me first which i find very good in a relationship! Thanks for your help i hope it goes well when i do talk to him :)

June 15, 2011 - 1:46am
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Hi Babibubbles,
Pornography is a stimulate and therefore, just like any drug can be addicting although it also can just enjoyable. As long as there appears to be no addiction or if it leads to a disruption in your everyday life (i.e., not working), then there appears to be no issues with visual stimulating material but of course there are some negative religious beliefs behind it also. It really depends on each person.

Introducing it into your relationship is something new and exciting for probably both of you since he was already interested and obviously you are too. You should certainly talk to him about it. Sharing the idea in a relationship is certainly different then on your own. You shouldn't feel scared, think of it as only a conversation topic and I know you can do it.

Keep us posted and good luck,

June 14, 2011 - 5:24am
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