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What should I do about him?

By Anonymous May 19, 2010 - 12:47pm
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My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years. We've been long distance most of that time. Next month I was planning to move to where he is. I found out he's been talking to another girl online. She lives even farther away than I do, and she is significantly older than him. He is very good friends with her and he also likes her as more than that. They flirt with each other and talk about things that a man should not talk about with a woman other than the one he is already in a relationship with. I've already asked him to quit talking to her and he said he can't do that because they have too much in common. He said he'd try to talk to her just as friends but he can't make any promises. He told me he needs to see where things are going with her before he can be with me completely because he will always care about her now. He's hoping that his feelings for her will fade. I don't know what to do. He can't decide between her and me. Whenever he and I aren't talking, I cry. I don't feel the same when I talk to him, I worry that he's just thinking about her. I can't have phone sex with him because I know that he is no longer mine completely. He denys that he's been cheating, though in my opinion I think he is emotionally.

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