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Why does my bf not want sex?

By Anonymous December 7, 2010 - 6:17pm
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My bf doesn't want sex anymore we havnt had sex in over a week and the only reason we did it last week was coz I almost begged him for it I've talked to him about it the first reason was because his parents sleep in the next room but this never bothered him before when I talked to him again about it he told me it's because we spend so much time together that it puts him off another reason he said is that he worried I'll get pregnant but we use condoms everytime last time we were alone in the house I try for it and he said I need to be in the mood for that I'm so confused and hurt he first guy I've had sex with and we both in are 20's I also found out he was pleasing himself to porn I told him it was upsetting me so he has promised not to watch it again!

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This is my story I was the one who wrote this but I've joined empowerher now well it's been a while now from we last had sex I had found trust in my bf not to watch porn but tonight while using his iPod surprise surprise I've found porn I'm deeply hurt by this coz he new how much it hurt my feelings I'm really upset right now and he no,s something upset me but I'm scared that if I tell him I found porn I'll say something I regreat coz this isn't fair sex should be about love and I'm not being shown it !!!!

December 17, 2010 - 6:21pm

i just feel like maybe things have gotten too routine now that we've moved in together

and yeah turning HIM down might actually be a good idea

December 14, 2010 - 2:06pm
(reply to bsygirl)

BsyGirl email me I really need to talk about this with someone going through the same but I rather do it though email coz it more private.
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December 14, 2010 - 5:04pm

My bj doesn't wanna have sex with me anymore either. Well, at least not when i try to start it. It's only when he wants it that we do. If i try to start it, he pushes my hand away and uses any excuse he can. The other night I started kissing on his neck in bed and he made a noise of disgust and told me he was watching tv. We used to have sex all the time (3-4 times a week). Now, I'm lucky if he wants to once a week and it seems like the only time he wants to is early saturday morning (like 4-5). The only time he comes up and kisses me is when he's leaving for work and it lacks passion. We never hug and rarely even sit and watch tv together. We had sex more before we moved in together. He's told me once that sex is like pizza and that you wouldn't want to have pizza everyday. I'm sorry but I don't feel the same way about pizza as i do sex.

December 8, 2010 - 5:45pm
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Anonymous (reply to d_nagle920)

Hey yea I no how u feel my bf seems bit better coz he not watching bloody porn but as for ur bf wanting it on a sat morn what I wud do is turn him down I no that can be very hard when u want to do it, it's to let him no what it feels like to have to wait till other person in the mood that should help coz I've done it hope things work out for u I always thought it was the women that turned men down but thanks to porn we have to feel bad about asking for sex coz I no I do I feel like I'm pressureing him but I can't help it if I like that kind of love aswell as kisses and hugs!

December 10, 2010 - 4:00am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

If ur bf is not showing passion or hugging u I would tell him ur leaving to see if he changes u deseve better than that I no that might be hard thing to do but ucant keep being on happy!

December 10, 2010 - 4:03am

Im going through the exact same thing with my boyfriend, we used ot have sex sometimes 3 times a day!

now we hardly do at all since we moved in together, I foundporn on his computer, it makes me feel like im not good enough or not sexy enough,

i work out all the time, and i think i look great!

does your boyfriend also show you less afffection lately?

mine does

December 8, 2010 - 10:35am
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Anonymous (reply to bsygirl)

No he still kisses me and stuff he asked me to marry him and I've said yes we had sexual contact last night but not intercourse which is ok he seems to be staying off the porn which is gd I hopethings get better!

December 8, 2010 - 2:39pm
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