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why does my boyfriend not want me

By Anonymous February 9, 2011 - 7:40pm
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I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we hardly ever have sex. We started having sex after 4 months of dating and we did it every weekend when we saw each other then after about two months we started doing it every two weeks, now we only do it whenever he feels like it which is every 3 weeks. he told me he's not sexually attracted to me all the time and i don't know what else to do i've tried everything i need help i want him to want to i'm sick of begging it hurts to much to always be turned down it makes me feel ugly i've talked to him about and it just seem to help. I don't want to end the relationship i love him to much please help.

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I'm currently in 2 years relationship with my bf, I am happy and I guess he is too, he invited me to his place in UK for holiday and stayed at his parents house recently. We both work abroad and we spent 1 month holiday in UK so basically our relationship is serious and we are not playing around. The last time I can remember having the greatest sex with him is during our beach holiday in sri lanka, he was dominating the bed which I really enjoyed the pleasure and that was 10 months ago. After that, I can't remember the last time we have great sex. Currently, he doesnt have any problem maintaining the erection at any time of the day but when we are about to having it and I'm taking control he loses his erection and said he doesnt want to feel the pressure. He has a psychological problem dealing with sex and most of the time he can't get his man erect. I want to help him and want to talk to him. However, no great relationship is throwing away just for sex, so i really need to work this out. Does anyone on the same boat? Please can you give me suggestions to keep our sex life back to life?

October 30, 2016 - 12:06am
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honestly , If you're relationship is just based on sex , that honestly isn't a relationship.

February 23, 2011 - 4:07pm

Hi Anon,

I'm sorry. It sounds like you just answered your own question, though-- "he told me he's not sexually attracted to me all the time". I know sometimes, as women, we can have the tendency to get so comfortable with our boyfriends/husbands that we forget to continue looking pretty like we did when they first fell in love with us. Men are visual creatures. I'm not saying you did this-- but if you used to look pretty or sexy all the time, then all of a sudden you stopped putting effort into your routine, then this may be why he is turned off. I can't say that this is why he doesn't feel attracted to you but I can tell you that begging won't help. :(

Here are a few other posts that are similar to yours:

Hope these help,


February 10, 2011 - 6:50am
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