I'm so lost, lonely, frustrated and just...sad. I'm 31 and my boyfriend, of 3 yrs, is 33. We both work and I have 3 boys and he has 2 daughters. We all get along great. My boys love him & he loves them & vice versa with the girls and me. I'm so happy in that aspect because the important things are covered. However, when it comes to our relationship as a couple, it's a very lonely road. He works hard and he comes home exhausted. I take care of cooking and cleaning and shopping...etc. plus i have two jobs and i deal with the 5 kids about 98% of the time...which is fine. He helps sometimes. He goes straight to the couch and usually falls asleep by 7-730. Most of the time he'll sleep on the couch because i'm tired of waking him up to go to bed with me. He knows how deeply it upsets me and still does it. he will be up between 430-500 in the morning. He doesn't touch me or hold me or show me any attention or affection. we don't have sex. if we do it will be in the middle of the night and last for about 2 minutes then he will roll back over and go to sleep. i say it happens about once a month. there is no kissing involved at all or foreplay. just straight to the point. he will kiss me with a few tight pecks in the morning before he goes to work. for a long time i thought he wasn't attracted to me. so i started dieting and going to the gym and have lost about 30 lbs total. but i wasnt real heavy to begin with and i was 30 lbs heavier when we got together. he has made some comments that he didn't get with me when i was skinny. ive tried everything to get his attention. we've never taken a bath or shower together. he shows no interest. i'm so emberrassed to try and iniciate anything because i'm afraid of rejection. i feel so self concious of myself because of this. i've talked to him, cried to him, yelled at him, didn't talk to him, tried to make light of the situation and nothing helps. he says it's not me and hes just tired and has alot on his mind. i love him so much and im in love with him. i just don't know what to do anymore. i've tried to get advice everywhere and nothing helps. what is wrong with me? what can i do? he's very laid back and simple and doesn't like to do much. he's not very considerate or thoughtful towards me. its usually about him. he's doesn't compromise very well and is stubborn. i do all the compromsing usually. we watch on tv what he watches all the time and things like that. i'm always giving and hes always taking. where am i going wrong? please help me!!!
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