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Why wont my bf of 5 years have sex with me?

By June 23, 2012 - 7:57am
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We have been together 5 years, engaged 2. The past 2 years our sex life went downhill. I will try and put moves on him and he says "not in the mood, tired, he isnt on track" which I dont get that last one. I am not afraid to put moves on him cause I get rejected. He is 38 Im 32, and Im like ready to go. No kids, we have a house, and do other things together, but his uniterest in sex is killing me and leading me to bad thoughts. we have no weddiong plans, which I am getting cold feet and thinking is he the one? I mean seriously, I have tried talking nicely to him and asking if it's me or what, he told me before that when I yell or nag at him, it doesnt help, but I dont do that anymore. I have suggested couseling cause He isnt trying. I feel like he is the lazy one in our relationship. He doesnt make plans with me, I like to do things and go places and he would rather read or watch tv. We have no hobbies together, I like to workout, bike, go for walks, hiking and he is kinda a homebody and he isnt willing to try things with me. So I mean the other night when I tried to put moves on him, an d started kissing him he says "what are you doing? and he was like IM not in mood and I said I could get you in mood, and he said no. He isnt willing to try. I mean what guy doesnt love it when their girl wants them physically.

Maybe he isnt happy with me? I dont know... it's sad... What should I do? I mean it's been since feburary the last time we were intimate. NO kissing no hugging.. nothing it's now June.

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Thank you for your comment, I have heard this before from friends and other people, but just arent sure what to do. I tried the other night to put the moves on and got rejected again, and he says " he has to get back on tack" and Im like I dont get that. I have no idea what that means and have asked nicely, my patience is running thin. I mean I know I have said mean stuff to him like, that's it, im going out to find someone else, that's the point Im like to try and get a reaction from him and he says nothing back. Just Im sorry, and no actions. I dont get it. I said Im calling a therapist then. It's my fault too I think, but partly his as well. I know I dont help when I get mad and blurt things out, but it's frustrating. Maybe we are more like roomates than a couple, that's how I feel. I have asked him to explain to him but get nothing. So I guess I do have to rehthink this bigtime. Kinda sucks cause we have a house, dog, worked on this house, etc, so it's kinda hard to just walk away, but I know I cant stay in it if I am not happy. He's certainly not fighting for me......UGH.>>!!!

June 26, 2012 - 6:22am
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